Every week I speak to women in one-on-one private conversations about their sexuality where they often tell me things they haven’t articulated with anyone else. I have learned so much about women from these private and tender conversations. The issues the women in my tribe want help with more than anything are desire and the ability to experience pleasure and orgasm.
I myself was unable to orgasm for the first 6 years of having sex, and 19 years of my life. Because my mother had unwittingly shamed me away from touching my own genitals, my own exploration was truncated. |
I very much wanted to know how to have orgasms. I know the frustration of feeling like you can get aroused to a certain point and to not be able to get over the hump.
It can be hard on relationships too. Any good partner will want to please you. But it’s not possible most of the time if you haven’t figured it out yourself. Then both people end up feeling frustrated and disconnected rather than united in pleasure.
But where do you learn how? As a sex educator, people often assume I work with teenagers, and I tell them that actually, I work with former teens who never got good sex ed and then became adults... who still need to fill in the blanks and learn how to navigate adult sexuality, adult bodies, adult sexual communication and adult relationships. Sexuality is different for adults than it is for teens.
We need real adult sex ed. What does that look like?
It can be hard on relationships too. Any good partner will want to please you. But it’s not possible most of the time if you haven’t figured it out yourself. Then both people end up feeling frustrated and disconnected rather than united in pleasure.
But where do you learn how? As a sex educator, people often assume I work with teenagers, and I tell them that actually, I work with former teens who never got good sex ed and then became adults... who still need to fill in the blanks and learn how to navigate adult sexuality, adult bodies, adult sexual communication and adult relationships. Sexuality is different for adults than it is for teens.
We need real adult sex ed. What does that look like?
People are often very curious what I do with women in my sexual empowerment programs. It can be hard to explain and of course, people are often very nervous or anxious about it because sexuality feels private or has been taboo for them, or it just feels like it would be very vulnerable to deal with it openly.
It is vulnerable.
And yet, that’s what people are seeking.
It is vulnerable.
And yet, that’s what people are seeking.
I hear from women a lot that they want to have deeper intimacy with their partners. They want to feel safe enough to surrender and to really go there with their beloved. In order to have closer intimacy and in order to have that deep surrender, you have to make yourself vulnerable. You can’t go into sex protecting yourself with all your walls up and expect that you’ll be able to drop in deep and have the most amazing orgasms.
This is the sexual conundrum many people have.
So how do you learn to do that? How do I teach people? We practice. We set up a safe container where women can really take risks and show up fully in their bodies. We set up opportunities to play and to try things on. We open up dialogue about the things most people don’t talk about so we remove the taboo and we can get to the core of what is real for us. We can get to the fears and the challenges. We can get to the sweet spots. We can uncover what is in shadow—what is really holding each woman back from being her full sexual self and having the pleasure, connection, ecstasy and intimacy she deeply wants. We can practice the skills of communicating, asking for what we want, learning our bodies and how pleasure works.
There are no short cuts. Why would you want one anyway? The journey home to the sexual self is so much fun, so revealing and so magical. Why would you circumvent that?
This is the sexual conundrum many people have.
So how do you learn to do that? How do I teach people? We practice. We set up a safe container where women can really take risks and show up fully in their bodies. We set up opportunities to play and to try things on. We open up dialogue about the things most people don’t talk about so we remove the taboo and we can get to the core of what is real for us. We can get to the fears and the challenges. We can get to the sweet spots. We can uncover what is in shadow—what is really holding each woman back from being her full sexual self and having the pleasure, connection, ecstasy and intimacy she deeply wants. We can practice the skills of communicating, asking for what we want, learning our bodies and how pleasure works.
There are no short cuts. Why would you want one anyway? The journey home to the sexual self is so much fun, so revealing and so magical. Why would you circumvent that?
Because you are afraid you’ll feel embarrassed talking about it?
Because you are afraid to be seen?
Because you are afraid that if you express your deeper desires and fears that you’ll actually be able to go deeper and that means more vulnerability?
We cannot afford to live that way.
You get one life. Are you going to withhold from yourself because you keep making your decisions based on your own fear?
I was a sexually mute teenager who had no language for sex. I came into myself as I received the sex education I had desperately needed as a teen. I was able to build an adult sexual life from that place of knowing, of coming out of the dark and into pleasure and self-knowledge and freedom.
Adult sex education changed my life. I continue to watch it change the lives of others.
Because you are afraid to be seen?
Because you are afraid that if you express your deeper desires and fears that you’ll actually be able to go deeper and that means more vulnerability?
We cannot afford to live that way.
You get one life. Are you going to withhold from yourself because you keep making your decisions based on your own fear?
I was a sexually mute teenager who had no language for sex. I came into myself as I received the sex education I had desperately needed as a teen. I was able to build an adult sexual life from that place of knowing, of coming out of the dark and into pleasure and self-knowledge and freedom.
Adult sex education changed my life. I continue to watch it change the lives of others.
So there may be fear. There are unknowns.
There may be questions. Of course there are questions.
There may be disbelief of what is possible. Because you haven’t had the privilege of seeing what is possible. And it is a privilege.
There may be a feeling of “I’m the only one” or “It can’t happen for me.”
It’s just not true. We all have our struggles and we can all break through.
There may be questions. Of course there are questions.
There may be disbelief of what is possible. Because you haven’t had the privilege of seeing what is possible. And it is a privilege.
There may be a feeling of “I’m the only one” or “It can’t happen for me.”
It’s just not true. We all have our struggles and we can all break through.
At a women’s retreat I recently hosted, a woman asked me, “Why don’t we know how to talk about sex? What is it so hard?”
Because we have absolutely no role models for it, I told her.
Where do we learn it?
Where do we see people having healthy conversations about sex, desire, pleasure, orgasm, how their bodies work, what they really want, and how to solve sexual problems?
We don’t.
Unless we decide that we deserve adult sex education and we give that to ourselves.
It takes courage to show up for yourself sexually.
It takes courage to admit what you don’t know.
It takes courage to ask for help with sexuality.
It takes courage to be vulnerable and honest.
It takes courage to show up, yet it is only in the showing up that we get what we need and we move beyond the blocks we as individuals cannot overcome alone.
This is a call for courage.
This is a call for changing the course of sexual ignorance and developing a tribe of people with true sexual intelligence.
Join me on this journey home.
The only way out is through.
I’ll be your guide and we’ll traverse these uncharted waters together.
Many women have gone before you.
There is a legacy here to be a part of.
There is a herstory of sexual ignorance to change.
Let it stop here, before your daughters and nieces and girls have the same fate.
We deserve better.
We can have so much more.
Are you ready?
Because we have absolutely no role models for it, I told her.
Where do we learn it?
Where do we see people having healthy conversations about sex, desire, pleasure, orgasm, how their bodies work, what they really want, and how to solve sexual problems?
We don’t.
Unless we decide that we deserve adult sex education and we give that to ourselves.
It takes courage to show up for yourself sexually.
It takes courage to admit what you don’t know.
It takes courage to ask for help with sexuality.
It takes courage to be vulnerable and honest.
It takes courage to show up, yet it is only in the showing up that we get what we need and we move beyond the blocks we as individuals cannot overcome alone.
This is a call for courage.
This is a call for changing the course of sexual ignorance and developing a tribe of people with true sexual intelligence.
Join me on this journey home.
The only way out is through.
I’ll be your guide and we’ll traverse these uncharted waters together.
Many women have gone before you.
There is a legacy here to be a part of.
There is a herstory of sexual ignorance to change.
Let it stop here, before your daughters and nieces and girls have the same fate.
We deserve better.
We can have so much more.
Are you ready?
This virtual course will be a deep dive into the realm of pleasure, orgasm, and the body -- with a powerful group of women who are ready to learn & explore.
What the digital ticket includes:
- The video series featuring in-depth techniques and teachings about pleasure and orgasm --yours to keep and watch anytime. I believe that sex is a skill and practice is an important part of that, so you'll be able to watch these videos from home, anytime you want, to continue to deepen your knowledge.
- You will also get a special anatomy teaching that will complement the work I do with women, shedding light on little-known features of our anatomy that are essential to mastering your sexual self-knowledge
- You'll also get a "sex workout" to help you hone in on the physical and lifestyle components that happen outside the bedroom but that make a big difference in what you experience during sex. AND, you'll get a special communication primer to help you talk about pleasure, orgasm, and what goes on in sex with your partners.
- Lastly, you'll be invited to a special, small group Q&A webinar with me to integrate all the material you'll be learning from, get your specific questions answered, and get live coaching from me to help you go further in expanding your pleasure and having deeper orgasmic experiences.
Want to find out if this is the right step for you?
This work isn't for everyone, so it's important that it be the right step for you.
You can book a complimentary Pleasure Breakthrough Call with myself, or my team leader, to talk about what you are looking for in sexuality and relationships, what holds you back, and if this program is a good fit for you.
You can book a complimentary Pleasure Breakthrough Call with myself, or my team leader, to talk about what you are looking for in sexuality and relationships, what holds you back, and if this program is a good fit for you.
About Amy Jo Goddard
As a Sexual Empowerment expert and thought leader, Amy Jo Goddard has guided thousands of people towards the wholeness and fulfillment they want, sexually and in other aspects of their lives. She earned her Master’s degree in Human Sexuality Education from New York University and has 20 years of experience in the sexuality field. As a renowned speaker and teacher, Amy Jo travels to colleges, communities, and conferences teaching classes and offering keynotes that help people to connect the dots around sexuality and money, expand their creativity, grow their confidence and learn to be bigger in their relationships, in business, and in the world. She delivered her TEDx talk “Owning Your Sexual Power” in March, 2014 in Napa Valley, was named one of GO! Magazine’s “100 Women We Love” in 2010 and one of Kinkly’s ”100 Sex Blogging Superheroes” in 2013.
Amy Jo teaches her unique 9-month Women’s Sexually Empowered Life Program, maintains a private coaching practice, and hosts events and VIP days with private clients in Napa Valley and New York City. She creates unique opportunities for women and couples to deeply explore, heal, and grow their sexuality. She is also a corporate consultant, helping companies elevate the professional and personal lives of women. Her second book Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence is set for release by Penguin Random House in September, 2015. You can find her online, writing about practical, real-world sexuality and evolved relationships at www.amyjogoddard.com.
Amy Jo teaches her unique 9-month Women’s Sexually Empowered Life Program, maintains a private coaching practice, and hosts events and VIP days with private clients in Napa Valley and New York City. She creates unique opportunities for women and couples to deeply explore, heal, and grow their sexuality. She is also a corporate consultant, helping companies elevate the professional and personal lives of women. Her second book Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence is set for release by Penguin Random House in September, 2015. You can find her online, writing about practical, real-world sexuality and evolved relationships at www.amyjogoddard.com.
What women are saying...
“When we started working together, I was really at a loss about my own desire. I was in a huge frustrated place, especially in my marriage: I didn’t know where to turn. Amy Jo is a great listener and is really insightful; she really knows how to meet people where they are. I started to see some things I desire sexually that I didn’t know about and new things I was able to describe. This work has planted a seed for play, and pleasure, and desire for me that will unfold for a long time. I’m bringing it in and designing my life so I can have some play!” |
"The self-exploration, the sharing and the activities really challenged me and I found myself succeeding and blossoming before my eyes and everybody else’s. Amy Jo has got a great style. She’s so loving and supportive, she’s so skillful and she’s got a great intuition at knowing when I needed to be pushed just a little harder. Thank you Amy Jo and your team a thousand times for providing support and this amazing experience that allowed me to come out of my shyness and helped me to start to love myself.” "Amy Jo has developed a curriculum designed to dive in and explore in depth the many facets of our sexual lives and so much more. Within the safe container created by AJ's fantastic staff and the other women participants I found the space and support I needed. The program is a good mix of nuts and bolts information, workshop exercises and many opportunities for self-expression and play. And lots and lots of support!" - Joanne S. |
"Amy Jo made sure that we had complete privacy in the workshop location. The ratio of support staff to participants was excellent, and the facilitators were highly skilled, respectful, and caring. Boundaries and guidelines were clear, the range of exercises was wonderful. I was able to take real risks and make big steps... Witnessing the courage of the other women was deeply moving. Thank you to Amy Jo, and everyone involved, for their strength and commitment!" |